The ego stands in judgment, always. Judgment of others, as well as our own judgment. That is why it is called the relative world: because everything is visible in relation to something else; and when we are identified as our relative world self, by definition we are constantly comparing. This car is better than that car, better than me, better than that, better than them.
In this case, love is impossible. What we call love from this place is a real need. The need to be loved, the need to be seen or recognized, the need to find a safe harbor. This isn’t wrong. It is simply human. But it is incomplete.
When we make an effort to see ourselves as something other than the ego, we are doing a work of love. We align ourselves with the Godhead and make ourselves available to Love. When we meditate, we fall into this subconscious or thoughtless state, and we begin to know what that is without judgment. We begin to know our own essence; and from then on it is possible to get to know others as a whole.
Essence knowing essence, Self recognizing Self. Love given, love received. This is the work of a lifetime, the work of being a human: each day to let go a bit more of judgment and separation and grow a bit more in our ability to love, our ability to know the Divine in ourselves and in everyone around us.
