Differentiating desires for happiness
It is said that desires are the cause of sorrow in life. It is also said that desires are the fuel that drives our life forward. Then the question is whether to have it or not. I am of the opinion that you should have desires and they should be properly identified and differentiated. Then the question of sorrow do not arise .I will tell you how.
Desires are of two types, those which are ego based and those which are love based. Ego based desires are there to satisfy your ego while love based desire arise out of your love for something. You may have a desire for a Rolls Royce car out your love for that car. You may also desire it to showcase your wealth before others. Then it is an ego based desire. You may want to buy a beach side mansion because you love to be beside the beaches or you want it because you desire to be in an elite club of millionaires who have it. You may want to marry the most sought after celebrity in Hollywood purely out of your love for her or you may want her to make competitive suitors to lower their head in defeat and despair. So the choice is yours. Love based desires are easier to materialise and they always bring happiness .Ego based desires are difficult to materialise than love based desires. More over they always bring stress and sorrow. So you make out a list of your burning desires and examine whether they are love or ego based. Keep only love based desires. Then there is no cause for sorrow
